I loved the exercise on rejection. I remember trying this a few years ago - on a slightly note - that is smiling at a stranger and saying hi. Some interesting experiences as a result, but none long lasting in nature.
Certainly I agree that micro-rejections over time can lead to a loss of connectedness. My take on this is that connecting should be viewed as a muscle that needs to be exercised until it becomes second nature. But connecting is tied to micro-rejections because it exposes my vulnerability in asking for something and being told I cant have it - whether it is as simple as a coffee in the morning, a back rub or as complicated as being listened for a few minutes.
In my life I have experienced this and when the rejection is fairly constant it seems to become more and more difficult to cross that bridge.
I loved the exercise on rejection. I remember trying this a few years ago - on a slightly note - that is smiling at a stranger and saying hi. Some interesting experiences as a result, but none long lasting in nature.
Certainly I agree that micro-rejections over time can lead to a loss of connectedness. My take on this is that connecting should be viewed as a muscle that needs to be exercised until it becomes second nature. But connecting is tied to micro-rejections because it exposes my vulnerability in asking for something and being told I cant have it - whether it is as simple as a coffee in the morning, a back rub or as complicated as being listened for a few minutes.
In my life I have experienced this and when the rejection is fairly constant it seems to become more and more difficult to cross that bridge.