Priyanka,this is awesome, just like always! We all struggle with making the right decisions, especially when the stakes are high. But this explains how to trust your gut and have faith in your decision-making. Personally, I find this piece really helpful and valuable. Thank you.
Hi Priyanka, nice article and I had never really thought about the social aspect of decision making in this manner. Couple of questions :
1. How do I trust my gut when I seem to consistently make bad choices in partners and psychology says we choose partners who resembles our main caregiver?
2. While I do agree that regret is a pointless emotion, isn’t it possible to learn from regret?
Krish, different people make decisions differently (analytical, emotional and intuition). You've got to figure out what's historically worked for you, and try to apply more of that.
1. As for making informed partner choices, I use a multi-step process of helping people comb through their nature (versus nurture), then working backwards from what a nurturing relationship looks like for them in order to develop a custom framework to assess potential partnerships.
2. It is worth learning from bad decisions, not bad outcomes.
Wonderful post again ! You are spot on when you say its not the "decision" but the "outcome" that worries us and gives us so much anxiety. So if you have a process by which you arrive at a decision based on intuition and experience and you run it through some steps into the foreseeable future that satisfies you - this is the best one can do. In a complex world sometimes the decision hits the mark and sometimes it doesn't and we should be sanguine with it.
By the way "This divided Island" is a great book and Samanth is a great writer. He is one of the best non-fiction writers around. Do check out his long form articles and his first book "Following Fish".
Loved this piece! Such an interesting take on decision making. Very useful esp given I'm facing a big life partner decision at the moment. Would love to get in touch with you to understand your framework better :)
Priyanka,this is awesome, just like always! We all struggle with making the right decisions, especially when the stakes are high. But this explains how to trust your gut and have faith in your decision-making. Personally, I find this piece really helpful and valuable. Thank you.
Hey, thanks Manoj.
It such a helpful about decision making. After reading it, I feel different about this topic
Hi Priyanka, nice article and I had never really thought about the social aspect of decision making in this manner. Couple of questions :
1. How do I trust my gut when I seem to consistently make bad choices in partners and psychology says we choose partners who resembles our main caregiver?
2. While I do agree that regret is a pointless emotion, isn’t it possible to learn from regret?
Krish, different people make decisions differently (analytical, emotional and intuition). You've got to figure out what's historically worked for you, and try to apply more of that.
1. As for making informed partner choices, I use a multi-step process of helping people comb through their nature (versus nurture), then working backwards from what a nurturing relationship looks like for them in order to develop a custom framework to assess potential partnerships.
2. It is worth learning from bad decisions, not bad outcomes.
Yeah, bad decisions is worth learning from - excellent point. Outcomes are what they are.
Do you still work with people using your partnership framework? How do I get in touch with you?
You can write to me at marriagebrokerauntie@gmail.com
Wonderful post again ! You are spot on when you say its not the "decision" but the "outcome" that worries us and gives us so much anxiety. So if you have a process by which you arrive at a decision based on intuition and experience and you run it through some steps into the foreseeable future that satisfies you - this is the best one can do. In a complex world sometimes the decision hits the mark and sometimes it doesn't and we should be sanguine with it.
By the way "This divided Island" is a great book and Samanth is a great writer. He is one of the best non-fiction writers around. Do check out his long form articles and his first book "Following Fish".
Absolutely, that's usually how I help people work through their choices - developing a customised process to help them make decisions.
And yes, I intend to read Following Fish next. I only just discovered Samanth, I've enjoyed his writing so far.
Loved this piece! Such an interesting take on decision making. Very useful esp given I'm facing a big life partner decision at the moment. Would love to get in touch with you to understand your framework better :)