3 Tips for Intimacy

We all want to feel a sense of closeness with our partners, and manifest intimacy for ourselves. I am currently going through all my notes from conversations with friends and clients for my book. I found 3 things that created real inflection in peoples’ relationships, and I want to share them with you.

They are so simple, you can try them TODAY:

Talk

Share your desires with your partner, ask them about theirs. Pick something small that both of you are comfortable doing together immediately after this conversation. It could be an activity you enjoy doing together or just holding hands. If you aren’t able to do even that small little thing right after your talk, the value of your talk was zero.

Trust

Trust that your partner loves you. Be vulnerable. Trust that they are listening, and trust that they are trying. Allow them to be vulnerable too. Listen. Trust what they have to say. We are afraid of being hurt, and hence, we prefer not to trust. But mistrust eats into love. Starting today, in the immediate next conversation with your partner, trust them a little more than you normally would.

Train

Intimacy is an endurance game, not a one-night sprint. So keep training with your partner, a small step forward EVERY DAY. Create a daily ritual - keep it simple. It could be a hug every morning, a kiss before bed, a coffee together every morning, or even just a daily text to say you love them. It’s not what you do on your best days, it is what you do EVERY DAY to create intimacy that matters.

It’s not too late to start TODAY.

What are your thoughts?

Any other powerful rituals that have worked for you in improving intimacy with your partner?